October 25th, 2026

Have you ever worried about something that hasn’t even happened yet?

I did this for YEARS. My mind could take one little situation and turn it into an entire emotional roller coaster. I’d anticipate problems, imagine outcomes and mentally prepare myself for things that might never come to pass.

I would replay conversations that hadn’t taken place. I imagined how someone might react. I’d anticipate the discomfort, the tension, the disappointment ohhh and don’t get me started on the embarrassment🙄

And before anything has even happened, I’d already be exhausted🥱

I had just suffered through something that hadn’t even happened…

And more often than not, might never even happen🫩

Sound familiar?

Well not too long ago, I came across a simple phrase that genuinely changed my life:

I REFUSE TO SUFFER IN ADVANCE💥

That’s it. Five words that put me back in the driver’s seat of my own mind💫

Now, when I catch myself spiraling into the future, I have a way to interrupt the ride.

I REFUSE TO SUFFER IN ADVANCE💥

It almost SHORT-CIRCUITS the mental spiral by bringing me back to three simple questions…

1. Is this happening right now?

2. Is there something I actually can or need to do, right now?

3. Or am I creating unnecessary suffering by trying to solve a problem that doesn’t even exist yet?

And IF my answers reveal:

• ➔ That there IS something I can do today ➡️ I do it

• ➔ If there ISN'T ➡️ I remind myself…

• ◆ IFFF it happens, I'll handle it THEN😉

Not because I know exactly how everything will turn out.

But because I trust myself to meet the moment when it arrives💪

And here’s the beautiful part:

I don’t have to sacrifice today’s peace to prepare for tomorrow’s possibilities😏

• I can care without catastrophizing.

• I can prepare without panicking.

• And I can allow life to unfold without mentally living through every possible outcome👊

Your Turn ✨

The next time you catch your mind racing ahead, pause and ask yourself:

Am I dealing with what’s happening… Or suffering over what MIGHT happen?

Then take a breath and reclaim your moment🧘🏻‍♀️

✨ You don’t have to figure out tomorrow today🥹

✨ You don’t have to ride every roller coaster your mind invites you on 🛑🎢

I invite YOU to keep this reminder close for those moments, times or days and say to yourself…

I REFUSE TO SUFFER IN ADVANCE🫡

Stay Light & Bright

— Lead the Way 🕯️